PATHOS - A BRIEF SCREENING INSTRUMENT FOR ASSESSING SEXUAL ADDICTION
1. Preoccupied - Do you find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? 2. Ashamed - Do you hide some of your sexual behaviors from others? 3. Treatment - Have you ever sought therapy for sexual behaviors you did not like? 4. Hurt Others - Has anyone ever been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior? 5. Out of control - Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire? 6. Sad - When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?
In the March 2012 issues of the Journal of Addiction Medicine, this screening instrument was first noted for its efficacy. The final conclusion of the study stated, "These studies provide support for the use of the PATHOS as a screening instrument to detect potential sexual addiction cases in clinical settings."
The cut-off for this instrument is 3. This means that three or more "Yes" answers indicate that further assessment is recommended by a qualified professional.
12 Step Groups
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) P.O. Box 11910 Nashville, TN 37222-1910 866-424-8777 www.sa.org http://cirrus.mail-list.com/professionals/43394349.html (telemeeting info)
Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) P.O. Box 70949 Houston, TX 77270 713-869-4902 www.saa.org www.saacall.com (telemeeting info)
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) P.O. Box 338 Norwood, MA 02062-0338 781-255-8825 www.slaafws.org http://www.slaafws.org/meeting (telemeeting info)
Porn Addicts Anonymous (PAA) www.pornaddictsanonymous.com
For Partners of Addicts
S-Anon International Family Groups (S-Anon) P.O. Box 111242 Nashville, TN 37222-1242 615-833-3152 www.sanon.org
Codependents of Sex Addicts (COSA) P.O. Box 14537 Minneapolis, MN 55414 763-537-6904 www.cosa-recovery.org
Al-Anon Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 1600 Corporate Landing Parkway Virginia Beach, VA 23454-5617 888-425-2666 www.al-anon.org
Codependents Anonymous (CODA) P.O. Box 33577 Phoenix, AZ 85067-3577 602-277-7991 www.codependents.org
Recovering Couples Anonymous (RCA) P.O. Box 11029 Oakland, CA 510-663-2312 www.recovering-couples.org
For Trauma Survivors
Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA) World Service Office P.O. Box 190 Benson, MD 21018 410-893-3322 www.siawso.org
Incest Survivors Anonymous (ISA) P.O. Box 17245 Long Beach, CA 90807 562-428-5599
Adult Children of Alcoholics P.O. Box 3216 Torrance, CA 90510 310-534-1815 www.adultchildren.org
Faith-Based Support Groups
Celebrate Recovery 949- 225-5207 www.celebraterecovery.com
L.I.F.E. Groups 866-408-LIFE www.freedomeveryday.org
Overcomer's Outreach 800-310-3001 www.overcomersoutreach.com
Route 1520 130 Inverness Plaza, #190 Birmingham, AL 35242 877-200-1520 email@example.com
Characteristics of Sex and Love Addicts (These are typically read at Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous)
1. Having few healthy boundaries, we become emotionally and sexually involved with people without knowing them.
2. Out of fear of abandonment or loneliness, we stay in or return to painful, destructive relationships, always struggling to conceal our dependency. Real intimacy is rare, if it has ever existed.
3. Fearing emotional or sexual deprivation, we compulsively pursue and involve ourselves with one relationship after another, sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional affair at a time.
4. We confuse love with such things as neediness, intensity, pity, sexual or physical attraction, being a victim or being a rescuer.
5. We feel empty or incomplete when we are alone. Though we fear both intimacy and commitment, we continually search for relationships or sexual contacts.
6. We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, fear, and envy. We use sex or emotional dependence as substitutes for nurturing support and understanding.
7. We manipulate and control others with drama and intensity.
8. We become immobilized or seriously distracted by sexual or romantic obsessions and fantasies.
9. We avoid personal responsibility by attaching ourselves to people who are emotionally unavailable.
10. We stay in denial about our addiction to emotional intensity, romantic intrigue, and compulsive sexual activity.
11. To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement, mistaking sexual and emotional anorexia for recovery.
12. We assign magical qualities to others. We idealize and pursue them, then we blame them for not fulfilling our fantasies and expectations.